Nishi Selva

Something we hear too often is with ‘time that beauty fades’. This phrase has recently been bothering me. As I have approached my later 20’s it feels like some of the things people say imply that your life is over by 30. 

I understand when people sometimes say beauty fades, sometimes it is said to encourage people to go for people not based on looks and to go for them based on deeper tangible things. However, the phrase still doesn’t sit right with me. I think there are better ways of expressing that we should be less superficial when picking someone to be with than that. 

I think beauty doesn’t fade, but what we find beautiful should change. We associate a lot of beauty with looking younger and ageing as a sign of losing beauty and I think that needs to stop. I think the main reason we need to stop doing this is that no one is winning this race cause we will all eventually start ageing. 

I get we have creams and things we can do to help keep us looking younger and I get it is part of the same problem, but it is the mentality that needs to change first. I don’t want to get to 30 and feel a sense of pressure to look like something that might not even be achievable. 

What we fund beautifully should change with age. Those first few greys are a sign that you made it to a certain age denied to many. Those wrinkles first appear on parts of your face that you use to laugh and smile first. Your body changing in ways is a sign you have been living your life.

So yeah, this post might be a mini rant somewhere in the middle of the internet but I hope this helps change our attitude towards beauty and how we view ourselves.
Love Nishi x